For many people, the holiday season is a time to see loved ones at gatherings, and many view this time of year as one for warmth and connection. However, for others, it’s not necessarily something they look forward to. No matter how you feel about this season, it’s important to be mindful of each other’s feelings and understand how to have compassionate conversations. Alcohol often plays a role in many holiday gatherings, so it is crucial to approach conversations with lots of care and understanding to help navigate these sensitive topics.
We all face challenges and it’s essential to seek support from trusted relationships to provide support and confidence. If you’re struggling, it’s vital to find spaces where you can open up and seek assistance.
Talking about substance use
Talking about heavy topics like substance use can feel challenging. Identify and reach out to people you trust, whether they’re loved ones, friends, mentors, or professionals. Not everyone in your life may be the right fit for these conversations, so focusing on those who offer support and understanding can make a difference to how you think about and navigate the season.
Be honest about your experiences and why you are making your choices. This can help you learn to be more open with yourself and others. In turn, this can lead to an opportunity for positive growth.
Build positive relationships
Regular check-ins with a loved one can strengthen your relationship and go beyond discussions about alcohol or drugs. Although text check-ins are OK, these are often most beneficial through a phone call or video chat. This kind of contact can help to build a positive, trusting relationship and can help you feel more comfortable around this trusted person.
Share enough information to inform them about your life and how you are doing. However, you always have the autonomy and the right to share or not to share, depending on your comfort level.
Communicate openly and set boundaries
Listening to others and being heard is key, but setting boundaries is just as important. Engage in conversations that feel right for you, and if something crosses a line, it’s okay to step back. Disagree respectfully and share your perspective thoughtfully while prioritizing your well-being.
Need more help?
If you’re concerned about your alcohol or other drug use, Wolverine Wellness offers many resources to help you explore your relationship with substances:
Conversations with parents and other loved ones can feel daunting, but they’re an opportunity to deepen your relationship and gain valuable support. Approach these moments with honesty, respect, and an open mind to foster a connection beyond the holidays.